WHERE IMPROVING FERTILITY MEETS YOUR WHOLE LIFE
Your path through infertility can be so much better.
I know you’re sick of piecemeal fixes, feeling confused by conflicting opinions, and totally over too-good-to-be-true fertility promises. You're ready to boost your chances for a baby while being treated like the whole, amazing, intelligent, capable, passionate, engaged human being that you are.
Learn a more helpful way to approach fertility.
Whole You
Nuanced mind-body medicine is the future of great medicine. And that’s where you’ll get your very best — and fastest — fertility outcomes. It’s time to say goodbye to conveyor-belt healthcare and band aid fixes.
Science Backed
From brain scans to Doppler ultrasounds and blood work, we’ve now got the cutting-edge science that proves holistic layers like empowering education, mental health support, and patient engagement make biological changes that matter.
Compassion Based
Facing infertility for 2+ years has been shown to be as stressful as battling cancer. You deserve fertility support that’s kind, warm, and nurturing. You deserve to be seen as a whole person facing a very real medical challenge.
Ethical Care
Infertility care is a relatively new specialty that’s operated on the edge of mainstream medicine since its start. That‘s created a complex gray zone of unrealistic expectations, inconsistent care standards, and confusing statistics. This course changes all that.
✓ Video Lessons
✓ Exercises, Handouts, Resources
✓ All at Your Own Pace
✓ It feels like my brain is increasingly taken over by fertility obsessions.
✓ I worry I’m missing something that will allow me to start a family.
✓ No one understands what I’m going through and it’s lonely.
✓ I do so much for my fertility but it doesn’t seem to be working.
✓ I wish I could hit pause to start feeling better, but time is ticking.
✓ Everyone has a different opinion — it’s so confusing and frustrating.
✓ I worry I’ll always end up on the rotten side of infertility statistics.
✓ I hate not being in control of my fertility.
✓ Not knowing how or when this will end is the worst.
✓ I’ve got so many questions about fertility. So. many. questions.
If you connect with these ideas you’re in the right place! The Baby You Want covers everything here and so much more — all in ways that feel appealing and totally doable.
COURSE OVERVIEW
Module 1
FOUNDATION
10 Video Lessons
We’ll start by getting super clear on our end game — not just a baby, but a healthy baby born to a healthy mom. You’ll only get there by shifting out of reactive survival mode and into proactive thriving mode instead. This is what the Foundation module is all about.
Module 2
NURSERY
9 Video Lessons
Reproductive hormones and anatomy are like your body's Nursery. We’ll get your unique body baby-ready by getting to the root of what's working and what needs help. We'll also ensure you get the best possible tests, treatments, and strategies if your Nursery needs some help along the way.
Module 3
HOUSE
9 Video Lessons
Your mind and body are like the rest of the House. If you only fix up your Nursery while your House falls apart, pregnancy is less likely to happen and more likely to have complications. You'll do so much better when you feel better as a whole — from processing trauma and grief to gut health and everything in between.
Module 4
NEIGHBORHOOD
9 Video Lessons
Everything outside your body is your Neighborhood. You have relationships, community, work — a whole life. And infertility hurts it all. Let's build, strengthen, and heal with good communication, boundaries, and love. Improving your neighborhood creates better pregnancy odds and helps with parenting and beyond.
Bonus Module
Á LA CARTE
Sometimes you need a specific tool at a specific time. The A la Carte module is like the tool shed out back. It’s full of lots of bonus material that will come in handy along the way. This module has info for IVF, IUI, pregnancy after infertility, bleeding in early pregnancy, troubleshooting recurrent loss, and more.
PERSONAL COACHING
I’m here to support you. From questions about fertility medications and IVF protocols, to practicing course concepts, grief, and facing the unknown — it's pretty amazing to have your very own fertility expert in your corner. Lifetime memberships include two free 30-minute coaching sessions in the enrollment price. Paid sessions are available for all members.
How about an introduction.
I'm Nicole Lange and I’ve been working exclusively in the fields of fertility, trauma, pregnancy, and life after infertility since 2006. My private acupuncture practice in Minneapolis, MN is called Life Healing Life. I’ve had a waitlist since 2007 and have been a part of countless fertility stories, coming up on 1000 embryo transfers, and even a handful of labors and births!
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My unique approach to infertility focuses on the whole person as they go through fertility challenges — not just fixing pieces to get pregnant. So it transforms lives and fertility outcomes both together because feeling more supported and whole is where healthier pregnancies happen.
I created the TBYW course to reach people who want more education-focused and patient-centered fertility care — people like you.
I’ve got a master's degree in Traditional Chinese medicine plus thousands of hours of additional training and experience in fertility medicine, grief and trauma work, pregnancy and postpartum care, relationship dynamics, pelvic health, and sexual wellness. I live in Minneapolis, MN with my hubby who does graphic design for me and other lucky ducks, plus my two kiddos Georgia and James, and a lizard that looks like a baby dragon.
Over the years I’ve come to think of myself like a classic storybook nanny. I arrive when times are tough, teach some life lessons, have some fun, make darn sure you feel supported and loved, see you through, and then say goodbye just when things get good. It’s a bit bitter-sweet sometimes, but just like the nanny in the books, we’re forever a part of each other’s story. Did I mention I’m just a touch sappy?? Women who have done my fertility retreats with me started a running joke — the retreat isn’t a success until Nicole cries! And proudly, I never disappoint.
YOU MIGHT RECOGNIZE ME FROM
My kind of testimonials.
You know that image of the person holding her hands in the shape of a heart over her gloriously pregnant tummy and those fertility websites with all the baby pictures? Blech — not a fan.
Those sorts of marketing tactics prey on vulnerability and desperation. It’s another example of crappy fertility culture. So, in lieu of looking at or reading about other people’s babies, I invite you to consider three things.
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Fertility care doesn't happen in a vacuum. Yes, my statistics beat any study. But any statistics I could possibly share would never be my statistics — they would be ours.
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No clinic, program, or provider will ever have 100% success rates. When we exclusively focus on pregnancy outcomes alone it gives those who don't "succeed" the message they have failed. Nothing could be further from the truth.
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I believe the best chance at a baby comes from you having a healthy and abundant life, and getting top notch care based on your unique needs. That’s where I focus. And that’s where I want you to start focusing too.
It's about your story — not anyone else's.
If you join this community I know you'll be happy you did. You will be more resilient and ready for wherever your journey takes you. And that’s a sales pitch I can get behind.
Amazing!
"Warmth and empathy ... real and authentic. Nicole had an immeasurable impact on my journey through infertility."
- KB
"It just feels so far from what we ever thought was possible. Yet, here we are."
- Jen F
"I felt like I wasn't all alone anymore. I felt grounded yet lighter at the same time. I can't say enough good things about my experience."
- Krista
"I truly believe I would not have come out of this experience in the health — both mental and physical — and well-being I now have without the guidance and support of Nicole. Infertility does not have to be all about the invasive medical treatments, the impossible decisions. We deserve and can have better. Nicole helped me see myself beyond my diagnosis and center my well-being (and therefore my family’s) at every turn. She is worth the investment in yourself!"
- Abbie
"I've learned more coping strategies, tips for staying centered and calm, and ways to better handle — and even accept — my emotions and stress than in months of therapy with an infertility specialist. Seriously! Nicole's amazing!"
- Elyse
"Nicole is so invested in helping you become the best version of yourself that was temporarily lost to the trauma of infertility."
- Libbie
"When I started I thought I was trying to fix my lining. What I got was more than I ever could have imagined. I would have been a different person. I would have been a different kind of mom. I'm so glad I am who I am now."
- Sarah
FAQs
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Oh, where do I begin! Other holistic fertility programs might talk a good game, but the focus is never really on your whole life and true balance and health and what you actually need and want.
Yes, their suggestions might be natural, and yes, they might technically be “good for you” on some level. I mean, sure seeds have good fats and fiber, but I promise, you don't have to eat like a squirrel to "fix" your estrogen levels - that's NUTS (sorry, I couldn't resist). Plus, you shouldn't feel guilty if you eat a donut sometimes too — eat that donut, make that donut a meditation and enjoy the heck out of it!
When fertility advice is overwhelming and not in alignment with your values, time, energy, actual finances, sense of joy and more, they never really get to the heart of the issue.
Oh, and infertility is a medical condition too... so it's about finding the best combination of care and big picture health TOGETHER.
That's why there is no other fertility program like TBYW in the world because TBYW is about all of this. For real. I promise you will like your life MORE right now if you do this program (and be more likely to have a baby).
The name of this program is "The Baby You Want," and the baby you want is one born from health, feeling educated, and getting empowered. Whatever path you need to travel. I can help protect you and move you in the right direction faster.
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This is a complicated biological situation, and infertility isn't effort-based, merit-based, or one bit fair (which sucks). I will do everything in my power to serve your wholeness and abundance every step of the way. But I don't have a crystal ball and I don't get to choose who gets pregnant.
What I can promise is that no matter where your journey takes you or how much longer you have until you find out your "end," this program will help you feel stronger and make your best choices every step of the way. And I know that'll lead you to amazing places. Even if it's not the place you thought you were headed when you began.
There's a real danger in thinking pregnancy is the main goal. A healthy life, mom, parent, and child are the REAL goal. I know that if you want to be a parent you can get there. I don't know how many twists and turns it'll take, but I do know this program will make every step clearer and easier.
There is always a 7 day money-back guarantee when you purchase a lifetime enrollment.
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Oh hells-to-the-no! I know you’ve probably already had roughly a million-and-one recommendations from everyone from your best-friend’s co-worker to that amped up over-sharer in the grocery store. Rest assured, this program is about the opposite of adding more and feeling overwhelmed.
I want to give you both the inspiration and the solid science to motivate you step-back and think about what actually works, which is often about subtracting and paring down and getting super customized not doing more!
The only things I want you to add are the things you actually crave like joy, connection, and rest (and only after you cut out that other stuff that's slowing you down and making this more uphill). And remember, there’s a 14 day money back guarantee, so if you find the program still feels like too much, you can step away.
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You are the top expert on you, so if you're gut is saying join, please do!
I generally like to encourage people to trust their bodies and be patient for a reasonable amount of time — at least 3-4 months for most situations. TTC is a lot about odds after all.
But if you already know you have some hormonal concerns or feel like you're rapidly heading down the rabbit hole of anxiety and overwhelm (I know this tendency well myself), or for any other reason feel in your gut like this program is right for you, please sign up. I trust your judgment and I'm so glad you're here!
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That’s for you to ultimately decide, but I don’t think so at all! Let’s say you get pregnant — hurrah! Congrats! Yaaaaay! But also, it’s not like the pressure and stress will magically go away. The TBYW program will still have tons you can use for everything from setting boundaries with your mother-in-law and learning to reframe pregnancy unknowns and anxiety to understanding your body so you can better understand what’s happening throughout pregnancy and beyond. There's even specific videos about pregnancy after infertility, bleeding in pregnancy, recurrent loss, miscarriage, and more.
And, let’s say you don’t get pregnant, or worse, you get pregnant and suffer a loss. You’ll be glad to have spent the last 2 or 3 or 10+ really intense and possibly traumatic weeks feeling more supported and getting more big picture (and that'll be great for whatever comes next). In other words, there’s never a bad time to get more whole and be proactive about your quality of life and mental health on this journey.
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If you are looking for a magical quick fix, or don’t want to take time to get truly educated on your fertility, then this program is probably not for you.
Also, I would love to eventually have the program translated, but right now it is only in English — with an occational Midwest accent no less. Go ahead, you can call me on it :P
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Yes! The focus of TBYW is on education and moving towards wholeness and balance. There’s not a single diagnosis ( or lack of diagnosis for that matter ) that won’t benefit from these things. I'm not saying it’s a magic fix for everything. But I do know, any treatments you need to do will work better and you’ll handle them better if you’re more healthy, abundant, and supported.
So male-factor, unexplained, ovarian reserve issues, PCOS, endometriosis, anatomical issues and more will all be a great fit for TBYW.
Even if you're pursuing adoption. I want you in the program. YOU matter and I want to support you whatever path gets you to the baby you so whole-heartedly long for.
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I (Nicole) am a medical professional and The Baby You Want is all about education and feeling empowered, but it is not a substitution for individualized medical care. In fact, one module of this program is about how to hone in and find the best one-on-one types of doctors, clinics, tests, and fertility care when that care is needed.
Please, do not disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking treatments. Do not stop taking medications or start new medications or supplements without a customized look at your specific risk factors, medical needs and more.
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Nope, not at all!
While TBYW is about being whole and abundant, everything is firmly rooted in science and the understanding that infertility is a medical condition.
I’ll share tons of research and data to support why even something as seemingly “fluffy” as cultivating joy or finding a healthy support network really is about endocrine function and blood flow. And of course, quality of life too! The future of medicine is mind-body.
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Absolutely not! This is something I feel passionately about and is another place I want to challenge the typical world of infertility and fertility culture.
While it is common to up-sell added items like additional programs, private label supplements, books and more, The Baby You Want is meant as a stand-alone complete product. You will never be pushed buy anything else to fully utilize this program.
TBYW also aims to pare down instead of add more, and so suggestions for things like supplements are fairly limited and backed by actual science. When given, these suggestions are the ones that might give you the most bang for your buck and should be discussed with your own providers.
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If you prefer reading your lessons to listening or watching you’re in luck! Each video has a full transcript. Speed readers unite!
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I’ve got a handy-dandy Contact link at the bottom of every page so you can easily reach out for anything that comes up.
I want you to love what you get so TBYW does have a 7 day money-back guarantee. If you purchase the program, complete at least 4 full video lessons, and decide this program isn't for you within the first 7 days, simply contact me and ask for a refund.
I'll confirm that you did four lessons, ask a few questions to get your honest feedback, and issue your 100% refund. It's as easy as that.
THE BABY YOU WANT INCLUDES
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FOUNDATION MODULE
10 Video Lessons
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NURSERY MODULE
9 Video Lessons
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HOUSE MODULE
9 Video Lessons
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NEIGHBORHOOD MODULE
9 Video Lessons
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BONUS Á LA CARTE MODULE
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WORKSHEETS
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RESOURCE LISTS
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MEDITATIONS
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PRINTABLE MANTRA CARDS
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Q&A with NICOLE
A whole and fertile you starts here.
Reclaim the life you love and make this the moment you choose abundance. Current enrollment options are listed below — The Baby You Want is waiting for you!
If you aren't loving the program in the first 7 days of a Lifetime Membership, you're protected by a 100% money-back guarantee in exchange for your feedback.